Military Wives Strip Down to Raise Awareness About PTSD: Battling Bare
By Sarah B. Weir, Yahoo! blogger
courtesy battlingbare.org
Ashley Wise's husband Rob is about as tough as they come. The career soldier spent 8 years in the Marines before joining the Army after 9/11 and serving on two tours of duty in Iraq, but in April this year, he hit a wall. He locked himself in a hotel room with guns and alcohol and told his wife "he might do something stupid."
Thankfully, he came back home alive. Ashley reached out to the Family Advocacy Service at Fort Campbell, Kentucky, where they are currently stationed, and discovered that,
like many other soldiers who are suffering from mental anguish or who might have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), finding the help he needed without putting his career in jeopardy would be a struggle. When Wise, believing her conversation to be confidential, divulged to a counselor that Rob had once become physical with her, an MP was immediately brought in. Husband and wife were not allowed contact for 72-hours and Rob now faces domestic assault charges (which Wise is trying to have dropped).
"The last thing a soldier needs is to be separated from his wife," Wise tells Yahoo!
Shine. "Guys kill themselves because they think they are such a burden to their families." Wise says soldiers avoid telling anyone they are feeling depressed, angry,
or even suicidal for fear of being dishonorably discharged. "Take the number of men who actually report having PTSD and multiply that by 50."
That evening, Wise told a girlfriend, "I want to streak across the 101st command building, because then maybe the general or someone would listen to what I'm saying."
Instead she grabbed an eyeliner pencil and had her friend write these words on her back:
"Broken by battle,
Wounded by war,
I love you forever,
To you this I swore:
I will quiet your silent screams,
Help heal your shattered soul
Until once again, my love, you are whole."
Wise posted a picture of her naked back on Facebook, invited other military wives to share images of themselves, and the organization Battling Bare was born. "Our initial intent was to take Facebook by storm," says Wise. She says, at heart, she simply wanted families to be able to enjoy normal things together like "eating at Chuck E. Cheese's or going to the fireworks." When she spoke to other women and "realized how big the problem is, we knew we had to do something."
Now, just two months later, Wise is working with seven other military wives to launch a non-profit organization to raise awareness about PTSD and the impact it has on spouses and children. In three years, they aim to have a chapter in every state in place to support military families and hold workshops based on a model developed by Operation Restored Warrior.
While some people are critical of their bold approach--she says she's had some ugly feedback and got a call from a stranger who called her "an attention grabbing whore"--the military isn't asking them to take their website or Facebook page down. Wise tells Shine that Battling Bare is "on the Pentagon's radar," and when she spoke to Colonel William Gayler,
Fort Campbell's Chief of Staff, he assured her, "I want to fix this."
Posted by Michael T. Wayne- A Little Crazy
UPDATE: Bill O' Reilly of Fox News has had an amazing impact on those Soldiers in need of special tracked electric wheel chairs. I will be contacting him with hopes that some kind of program could be identified to aid those of our Bravest who have a Traumatic Brain Injury- TBI, and those also suffering with PTSD or both. I do not know if this will work, for I am not a "somebody" with any importance or power, yet I will try. Thank you to all of our Brave Men and Women in Uniform, many still in harm's way. You are all in my prayers. God bless you.
I am struggling to get my Marine fiance out of jail whom suffers with PTSD/TBI.. Please help to support him for he has served our Country.. http://helpmilitary.blogspot.com/
ReplyDeleteI apologize for the tardiness of my response to your comment. I am recovering from neck surgery; however, that is nothing, compared to what our brave men and women in our Military accept when they do what they believe to be correct, and they are. It is our government, and the VA, that is making things so very hard for those in situations such as you are. I too, have somebody close to me undergoing this nightmare called PTSD, with a traumatic brain injury, and getting help is so difficult. You are in my prayers, as is your fiance. With deep regards, Michael T. Wayne
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